Chapter 7 – Jacob & Kina
“So, what did you think?” Jacob asked Kina when they walked out of the open house. They had been looking at new houses all week. Jacob enjoyed house hunting. Deciding together on a new place to live was part of what made a relationship amazing.
“I think my feet are killing me,” Kina said. She sat back in the car, rubbing her swollen tummy. Kina was five months pregnant, and seeing as how it was the second child, she was a lot bigger than with the first. Their first boy was just about a year old now.
“I’m sorry, baby,” Jacob said, touching her stomach. “Is there something I can do?”
“It would be great if you don’t schedule any more open houses for a while,” Kina said. “I don’t think I can do any more of this.”
“We’ll have something soon, babe,” Jacob said. “Tell me what you thought of this one.”
Kina sighed. She didn’t understand why Jacob was pushing this. They had a good home, and they were happy. “What’s so bad about our house?”
“It will be good if we moved closer to a good school,” he said. “We won’t have to worry about waiting lists and things then. Besides, soon there will be four of us, and a bigger home will be a good idea. Don’t you think so?”
Kina didn’t think so. She was happy in the home they had. It was more than big enough, with extra rooms they could transform for the new baby. They didn’t need that much space. They often spent all their time in one room.
“I just don’t see why we need to move,” she said. “We’re happy, aren’t we?”
Jacob looked exasperated. He really wanted a new house. To him, the celebration of a new arrival wasn’t complete without a new home. They had the money, they were expanding the family, and it was never a bad thing to be close to a good school. But Kina looked unhappy. The more houses they saw together, the unhappier she seemed. Jacob had been sure, at first, that it was all about her pregnancy hormones–her swollen feet, her aching back, that kind of thing. Kina had been a difficult person during the first pregnancy, and he was expecting roughly the same this time around.
“You still haven’t told me what you think of the house,” Jacob said.
Kina sighed. He wasn’t going to stop until he had an answer, was he?
“I don’t like the garden. It doesn’t seem child friendly. The kitchen isn’t open plan, so I will feel like I’m not a part of the conversation when I have to cook. The family room and a bar are adjacent, which doesn’t make sense for raising children, and the entire bathroom upstairs puts me off.”
Jacob raised his eyebrows. “Is that all?”
“I’m just getting started,” Kina said.
Jacob fought the urge to roll his eyes at her. It was the same story every time they saw a new house. The bathrooms were ugly, or the flow was wrong. And if that wasn’t the case, the garden was dangerous. He was starting to wonder if he would ever find something that would make her happy. There had been two already that he’d liked, one of which he’d just showed her.
“Let’s look at one more house,” Jacob suggested.
Kina sighed. He wasn’t going to stop until he got what he wanted. It was how he was. She knew that. She knew the man she’d married. She wanted to make him happy and be the submissive wife, but she didn’t have it in her. It wasn’t the point of the relationship, anyway.
They drove home. The silence in the car was uncomfortable. Jacob had a feeling that something was wrong, something bigger than Kina just not liking the house. He didn’t know how to ask her without getting into an argument. Lately, Kina had been difficult to speak to. She’d been very moody because of the pregnancy. He felt like they did have to have it out, though.
When they stopped at home, Kina got out of the car and walked into the house. She wasn’t in the mood for conversation. She was tired and cranky, her feet hurt, and she wanted to lie down. During the week, she still had work. It was the weekend, and she wanted to relax.
Jacob followed her to the bedroom. Kina lay down on the bed, watching him sit down. The mattress dipped under his weight.
“I know you don’t like going to see open houses,” Jacob said. “But it’s the only way we’re going to be able to find the house we like. One is going to jump out at us. I just feel it.”
Kina sighed. “Can we not do this? This house jumped out at us, and we are happy. We put so much into this house, only to leave it behind when we move on. Does that make sense to you?”
“Yes, it does,” Jacob said, frowning. “You do hear of people who stay in the same place for the rest of their lives, but I’ve never been like that. Did you grow up in the same house all your life?”
Kina shook her head. “No, we moved around a bit when I was a child. But we are adults here, now. We can choose whether we want to move or not.”
“I thought that was what we wanted,” Jacob said.
Kina closed her eyes. “Maybe it’s not what I want.”
“What do you mean?” Jacob asked. “I thought we talked about this.”
“No, what we talked about was that this was what you wanted. We never talked about if this was what I wanted.”
“I was under the impression we wanted the same thing,” he said. “I assumed that if it wasn’t what you wanted, you would have told me.”
Kina shrugged. She didn’t feel like having this conversation right now. She was tired and irritated, and Jacob had been pushing the idea of a new house for a while. All she wanted to do was rest.
“Were the issues you had with the house we just saw real? Or are they just excuses not to take it?”
Kina opened her eyes and shot Jacob a look. “Don’t you think I would have told you if that was how I felt?”
“Well, obviously not,” he said. “You haven’t exactly been open with me about this. I’m only finding out now that you think this might be a bad idea. That, to me, is the definition of ‘not telling me how you feel.’”
Kina rolled her eyes. Jacob had a point. She wasn’t communicating with him. But there was so much going on in her life right now, and the pregnancy took so much out of her, that she just didn’t feel up to facing him.
“Don’t roll your eyes at me,” Jacob said. “Why are you looking at it like this? I’m starting to get the idea that you don’t want to move at all, and that none of the houses will ever be good enough for you.”
“Jacob, I’m not in the mood for this.” All Kina wanted to do was sleep. She wanted to sleep until her pregnancy was over, until the question of a new house went away.
“Well, when will you be in the mood for this?” he asked. “Let’s make a date to talk about it.”
Kina was getting angry. “This is not some business appointment that you need to make with me. I’m your wife, for God’s sake.”
“I don’t want to just leave it. If you don’t want to talk about it now, fine, but I think we do need to speak about it at some point. Let’s choose a time so we can revisit this.”
Kina shook her head, and her eyes closed. “I’m not going to do this with you. I know your whole life is built around schedules and routines, but I won’t be the one to fit into them the way you want me to.”
Jacob was getting angry, too. He was usually the one to explode first, but Kina wasn’t as good at controlling her emotions now.
“This is not about routines and schedules. This is about our future.” Jacob’s voice was raising. If they weren’t careful, this was going to become one of those volatile fights that they’d been having lately.
“Don’t shout at me, Jacob. I’m not going to do this if you’re going to be childish about it.”
“I’m being childish about this? You’re the one not speaking to me about something. You’re letting me believe that you want to move, when all along, you don’t. That’s not very mature to me.”
“I can’t believe you’re bringing maturity into this,” Kina said.
“You started it,” Jacob said. “It’s just a fucking house, Kina. I don’t understand what the problem is.”
“I don’t see the point in moving. We worked so hard and put so much money into this house, and we really don’t need that much space. I’m happy here.”
Jacob took a deep breath and let it out slowly. “We can be just as happy in a new house,” he said.
“But I want to be happy in this house,” Kina said. “I feel like you’re so eager to move on that you’re leaving what we put together behind. Is that what you want? Are we always going to move forward and never look back?”
Jacob shook his head. “That’s not what it’s about. I’m excited about having another baby, about moving on and up in life with you. Why is that so wrong?”
“How can you create a home if you keep hopping from one house to another?”
“It’s just one house!” he said. “It’s not like we are moving every year.”
“Well, I don’t want to move at all,” she said. “Any year. I don’t think it’s fair of you to push me into this. We’re supposed to agree on something before we do it.”
“And, if I don’t agree with you about staying? What then?”
Kina covered her face with her hands and counted to ten in her head. They always said that it worked, but it wasn’t helping her temper at all. Jacob was being a pain about this. Why couldn’t he just leave it?
Kina couldn’t carry on talking about this. Luckily, the doorbell rang, and it was Kina’s mother, bringing back their son after babysitting for them. Jacob had to put on a calm face, pretending that everything was fine. At least, spending time with their toddler always put him in a better mood. He loved being a father. Everything was about the child. The way he grew and played and learned to understand life was fascinating. It distracted Jacob enough for the rest of the day.
When it was time to go to bed, Kina wasn’t in the main bedroom. Jacob walked through the house, looking for her. When he found her, she was in bed in the spare bedroom, already asleep. She hadn’t said good night, hadn’t told him that she was going to bed, and the fact that she was in the spare bedroom sent a clear message to him. Kina wasn’t going to sleep next to him tonight.
That just pissed Jacob off. It was bad enough that this had gotten as big as it did. Now that she had chosen to sleep in a different room, she had made it very clear exactly where they stood on this. They were not okay. A part of Jacob was sad about it, but the anger trumped that.
For a moment, Jacob considered waking her up and having it out with her. He wanted to know why she was being ridiculous about it. Why couldn’t she just speak to him? Why couldn’t they just come to a compromise? Instead, she was sleeping in a different room, so angry with him that she didn’t want to see his face. Was it really that bad?
He decided not to wake her up. He knew she was exhausted with the pregnancy and all, and even though he was angry, he wasn’t going to be a dick. So, he walked to the main bedroom alone, getting into bed and switching off the light. At least she was still at home.
Jacob lay in the dark, unable to sleep. He didn’t understand why this was turning into such a big thing. He didn’t see what Kina’s problem was with the new house. He was always excited to move to a new place. They had the money to move forward. In the long run, it would benefit the children if they were close to a school of their choosing. Those were all pros, and despite all Kina’s criticisms about the houses they had gone to see together, Jacob couldn’t find a single con to moving to a new house. The only negative thing he saw about this was how Kina was reacting to it.
Maybe, though, it was a sign. If his wife wasn’t happy, was it wise to keep pushing this? At the same time, he didn’t want to concede. Why did he have to give in when she was unhappy? Why couldn’t it be the other way around?
Without having any of the answers to his questions, Jacob finally fell asleep, alone in his own bed.